What is DARVO?
This pattern is a recognized manipulation tactic. Having a name for it can help you identify it, process its effects, and decide how you want to respond.
DARVO stands for Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender. It is a common reaction when people are held accountable for harmful behavior.
The Three Stages of DARVO
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The Impact
Self-Doubt
Making you believe you are "too sensitive" or remembered things incorrectly.
Guilt
Ending up feeling like you need to apologize for expressing your feelings.
Isolation
Designed to make you feel like you are the problem, leading to total isolation.